Rayna Neises is an author, certified coach, the host of “A Season of Caring” podcast, and speaker who is passionate about supporting daughters and sons in a season of caring with their aging parents.
Rayna lost both of her parents to Alzheimer’s disease twenty years apart. After her season of caring for her dad through his journey, she founded A Season of Caring Coaching where she offers encouragement, support, and resources aimed at preventing family caregivers from aimlessly wandering through this important season of life.
Rayna lives on a farm in southeast Kansas with her husband, Ron, and small pack of adorable dogs. She is the baby of her family, but most would never guess that. She is a former teacher and enjoys crafts of all kinds and spending time with her grandkids most of all.
Q & A with Rayna
WTB: Why did you write a book about your experience of walking your parents all the way home?
Rayna: I found the experience one of the most difficult and rewarding times in my life but I heard so many others express how hard it was minus the hope. I knew I needed to share the hope that can be possible even in this very difficult time. Sharing stories of our journey with things I found to help keep me healthy is what it became.
WTB: What was the most challenging part of writing your book?
Rayna: Knowing what to put in the book was most challenging for me. I lived it all and so much more. I learned to ask myself what do others need to know about this season and how can I help them understand it well before they get there themselves.
WTB: If you could tell your younger writing self anything, what would it be?
Rayna: Believe it or not girl that struggle you had in school with Reading and English won’t hold you back from being an author. Work hard you will be happy you did as you get to write a book someday sharing your story and encouraging others.
WTB: Does your family support your career as a writer?
Rayna: There is no bigger fan than my farmer husband. He is the first to tell people about my book and to offer them a copy. My sister is also a big supporter both in the story of the book and in my publishing it. I am thankful for my family and how they have supported the process of me becoming an author.
WTB: What was your hardest scene to write?
Rayna: Sharing the story of reaching out in love to my dad when he was upset and not cooperative was the most difficult to write. There was so much emotion involved in that scene it was tricky. I wanted to paint the picture of why things got to that point regularly and how my taking a new action, reaching out in love, changed it for both of us. It is a powerful moment and I have many tell me it was one of the most meaningful to them in the book.
What does literary success look like to you? Success looks like impacting others lives in a positive way. Caring for an aging parent is one of the most difficult things you will experience. I hope that my book will encourage you to do it in a way that helps both you and them feel seen, not forgotten and cared for, not neglected.
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